Monday

On being named Polly...

It's never been an easy thing being named Polly. Everyone thinks your name is either Molly, Pauline, Pollyanna, Dolly, or any other ludicrous name (I once got my name written as KARLE on a chinese chopstix order... WHAT?) Anyway, people usually think Polly is short for something like Pollyanna. When I tell them, "It's just Polly..!" they give me this strange look and continue on with the whole "I thought it must have been short for something" story! 
 Then there's the constant abuse in preschool, kindergarden, junior high, and even high school (jr. high was the WORST!) when people would call me, "Bird" and say, "Polly wanna CRACKER" to me CONSTANTLY until I cried myself to sleep many nights in junior high. Let me just say, being named Polly is a special task that only some people are meant to be tortured through. I remember telling my mother that, "If I was named something else, I would have had a boyfriend by now!" (I didn't have a real boyfriend until high school). Some people still find that strange even today!
 Now that I look back on it, I wouldn't have had it any other way. I am so used to rejection and being made fun of that I try and try again and it has made me SUCH a strong willed person that even my mother and father have a hard time saying 'no' to me about certain 'case in point' arguments. I guess all those years of put downs have turned out to be good for something. 
Now whenever I meet people in college, they think the name, "Polly Bland" is so interesting. This REALLY puzzled me at first because I always HATED my names- all of them! I've heard that it's a 'movie star name' which makes me laugh hysterically because of all the ridicule I've gone through with it!
It's nice to finally have found my place in the world (for the moment) and to throw a rock down and stay a while in my own skin (no matter how much I change from day to day- I know THIS is me). It's a GREAT and astonishing feeling for me to have finally reached this point in my life.. and I'd like to thank everyone who ever told me my name was interesting, anyone who made fun of me especially, and those dear few that were ever so kind to me in junior high when I was going through this rough phase. It made me who I am today and I wouldn't be able to see things clearly without you. I REALLY hope other Pollys comment on this post, too, with their stories about their names and if they went through similar ridicules.. I would love to hear your stories! Or anyone's!
outfit details:
vintage red mary janes: Dandelion Vintage
vintage green 1950's dress: Salvation Army in Litchfield, IL
vintage plastic floral 1950's purse: Goodwill in St. Louis
vintage creme gloves: Salvation Army in Litchfield
1950's vintage floral crown hat: Carrie's Vintage in Champaign, IL
love, polly

20 comments:

Nicole said...

Thanks for sharing your story, Polly. I think your name is absolutely lovely & which is a wonderful reflection of you. :)

Erin Dawn said...

Polly, you are a fantastic spirit and I'm so happy to know you!

Polly said...

I hear ya lady.... I still get those annoying comments from time to time :(

and I think that us Polly's have something special going on ;)

Zoe Beard said...

I love your name, Polly! Not many people have such a name, there are way too many Zoe's in my life for me to feel original. But being Zoe BEARD in itself is difficult, it's still awkward when cashiers at stores ask me how to spell my last name and I just say "beard, like on your face" then rub my chin. I've been called Zoe Mustache before and boys especially always teased me and said my facial hair was growing into my name, when I never even had any. I love my name now, hence the name of my blog! And I agree, junior high was the WORST! Your name is so great though:)Very original!

Eleni said...

Ugh, I hear you! I have a VERY common Greek name, especially in Cyprus, where my dad is from, but here in the UK people really struggle with it. It's pronounced like Lenny, but with an E at the beginning: e-LEN-i. Really not rocket science, but I've been accused of Ellen, Elaine, Helena, Helen, Helaina, Elainey (not even real names!). Most people call me Lenny, which I don't really mind (I offer it as an alternative when they really can't wrap their head around the whole thing) but I'd rather they made the effort to say my name properly, if I'm honest. I tell people it's Greek for Helen, and they say, "oh, shall I call you Helen then?" Um, no, my name's Eleni. It's such a pain when every time you meet a new person, you have to get into a conversation about your name. I really hate it when people say "oh, that's unusual" or "I've never heard of a name like that before" like I made it up or something! Yes, I made up an unpronounceable name for myself, just to make my everyday life that little bit harder, and other people just that little bit more irritating...sigh. But you're right, it makes us terribly exotic and interesting people in the end :)

Eleni said...

Ha ha, I've just remembered, I had a friend called Daisy, and customer service idiots on the phone always used to think she'd said "Davey!"

Lauren Hairston said...

I just love that you put green and red together--and not for Christmas!

Wasn't junior high awful? I wouldn't return to that point in my life for anything! People didn't make fun of my name; they found other things, though! As an adult, though, I've found I tend to like people the best who were made fun of a bit in their adolescence. I think we're better off for it and we don't have to take that crap anymore!

Anna said...

It is cruel the way kids are so vicious! I can see how it must have been hard to be called Polly as a child. My name is Anna and once or twice the other kids called me Anna Banana in a mean way which I HATED! But it was very rare so I can't complain too much! Polly is such a lovely name. I'm glad you like it now. I think it's just the right name for you.
AnnaXXX

Holly Knitlightly said...

Aww, Polly I'm sorry you had to go through that! I'm so glad that it's made you a stronger person today, though. I think your name is perfect! :)

Haha someone once asked me what Holly was short for... I said "hallway".

ilsteviewonder said...

I love that dress :D

PaulinaMo said...

I know what you mean, I'm Paulina and I always get Pauline or Colline.. oh and I would get Pauly too especially when they had those Polly Pockets as a kid!

~Pau
www.lilbitsofchic.com

YOURS TRULY, JOSELYN said...

I loveeeee your outfit!
& I love your name, Polly!
It's better than mine. I have three syllables in my name so people tend to find it difficult to hear me say my name
But you look so good in that gorgeous green dress!

Lots of love, Josephine ♥

Jul said...

I think Polly is a cute name! I can understand what you're saying, I haven't a good relationship with my name too- Giulia is a VERY popular name here and having such a common, plain name bothers me. Also, because of my surname (Peruzzi) people used to make fun of me (untranslatable word pun). But then I look at other people and I find out that a person surnamed Culetto (=little ass) really exists, well, I feel so lucky ;)
I love this outfit by the way! So classy!

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Dresses for Dinner said...

Great post! Polly is a really cute and original name. People aren't used to strange names. Which is a shame!

Marie @ Lemondrop Vintage said...

Wow- this really makes me think about the fact that we named our son an unusual name, I hate to think that he would go through anything you had to, but I know jr high is the worst about teasing for anything. In high school things get a little better surprisingly if only because there are so many kids. I think your name is lovely but I have always loved traditional names and don't really care to name my child anything trendy.
Love this outfit, green and vintage are my favorites and lovely pop of red!

Anything but Bland said...

Thank you all so so much for your kind comments.. they really mean a lot to me.. I loved reading them! Before I start commenting you each back individually, I wanted to say that I am going to name my daughter an unusual name, too! I've had it picked out for a couple years now... Maud. I know that she will be ridiculed in whatever ways possible.. but it is something that I've come to recognize as a personality trait that makes you so much stronger in life!! <3

love, polly

Zoe Beard said...

Polly, Maud is one of my most favorite names:) I think it's an excellent choice! In Austin lots of kids have strange names. I have a friend named Andraya and people still say it like Ann-Dree-Uh. I also have a friend named Cecil which she says translates into "the blind one", haha.

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Celynne said...

I didn't have a real boyfriend until I was 16. And even then, it wasn't anything serious. I just dated them because I needed to prove I liked boys XD

My middle name is Germaine, after my great-grandmother too :)

Lyndall said...

I love this post, and I know how you feel! I think now I'm glad to have an unusual name, but when I was younger I really wished my parents had picked something normal! I remember saying to them 'Alex is a girl's name too!' when I found out if I was a boy they would have named me Alexander. I also have the joy of an unusual surname which I like now but HATED when I was growing up... I'll probably be the only Lyndall Clipstone ever, which is kind of fun! Even if half of the time people mishear my name as 'Lynda' and nobody knows how to spell 'Clipstone'... It's two real words, it's not hard! Hehe.

I love the name Maud! We've picked unusual names for our future children too (Felix for a boy, Lorelei for a girl), and I'm hoping that whatever happens they will be happy with it when they are grown up :)